If you buy through links on this page, we may earn a small commission. But IRL, sexual submission is far more consensual, collaborative, fun, and sexy. Wait, is being submissive the same thing as being a bottom? Think: the partner on their back during missionary. A person may also identify as a bottom to not only describe their sexual preference, usually one who receives penetration, but to indicate their social role and sexual identity. Moments A partner pins your arms behind your back during doggy. Or pulls your hair during missionary. Or spits in your mouth.